Dear fellow ladies,
We hope this finds you well, well-rested in good spirit and having a good day.
I would like to share my experience of attracting a wrong kind of man into my life.
Is it not every woman’s dream to get married to a real man? But turning this dream into reality is within itself a lesson and a test, as my personal experiences have proven. Even when we put our all into the relationship, we often end up feeling pressured or unfulfilled, sometimes causing sinful mistakes, which push the men in our lives further away. Why would any real man put up with a woman who was constantly trying to emasculate him? Women’s liberation is PROHIBITED by God. Think about it? Is women’s lib Love’s Divine Order? No.
In most African countries, when a girl has completed her education at a university or higher learning institution, the next expectation from parents, elders, friends, brothers and sisters, and society at large, is to see her bring a man home for marriage. And if they don’t see that, they begin asking why, at which point it quickly seems to become everyone’s concern.
In my youth, I started a courtship with a man whom I thought was my friend, but had to learn the hard way he was a shameless professional champion liar and an arrogant cheat. He was wasting my time, being illegally married with two children while playing the field, and committing adultery (Deut. 5:8-20). The courtship started during my high school years and eventually took the precious gift of my virginity causing me to unknowingly also commit adultery. At the time I was thinking we were having a good time together. I did not acknowledge it was actually fornicating and I was committing a sin. Now I know having sex outside of the sacred marriage vows is sinful. We are to remain shameless until taken in marriage. Fornication in today’s society seems to be a very normal life-style, with people no longer caring about the consequences of this action. in fact, it is not recognized as a sin, but as dating and a normal part of courtship. Society as a whole has been duped into believing a lie, that because most don’t personally read their Bibles and The Laws of God, they can get away with this sin. (Hosea 4:6). Not so. Everyone is being judged everyday according to God’s Law regardless of the lies they choose to believe (Deut. 22:27-29, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10). The Law states that a woman who cannot present tokens of her virginity upon entering into marriage should be stoned (Deut. 22:20-21). If everyone was abiding by The Law, then all the women would be virgins before marriage, and there would be no one to sleep with any of the men, so they would all be virgins as well and there would be no children born out of wedlock, in a loving stable relationship.
This relationship always had its challenges, which required constant mending to keep it going. But it eventually reached a point where we were both so separated from Father by our sinful acts, that there was seemingly no way to continue (Exodus 20:14, 1 Corinthians 6:9-19, 7:2, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4, Matthew 5:19, 19:9 , Deut. 22:20-21).
Today I see my actions as a self-centered act for a desire to please and all this made me develop grudges unknowingly against this man (Mark 8:36-37). I did not grow up with parents, I was under the care of a guardian. I now see this as not having enough self-control over the self, thus sin entered in. I can now see my human made these emotional decisions. Obviously this was not Father’s Will for my life. Lesson here after the above failed test is: if the self is not recognized for who it really is, then the bad thoughts enter our minds, we believe it is really us and believe it knows best, instead of listening to our good voice within. Constant training of the human animal needs to take place on a daily basis, dying to self daily” The words in blue are lessons I learned from my Spiritual Guide after my confession.
At the time my thoughts were focused on the broken trust and the pain, and on finding someone else, instead of on what caused the problem and how to solve it, so, without thinking or knowing it, I was on the rebound, looking for love in all the wrong places. That’s a dangerous place to be. Indeed, someone else was found when I joined the University, but it didn’t last long, because I was uncomfortable since he had started demanding sex at an early stage of the relationship, and I could now tell he was the cheating type too and also needy. Due to this, I decided to reconcile with my ex, even when I no longer loved him like before, and he noticed the change and asked me about it. I remember one concerned relative telling me that your heart has refused that man, please don’t force it, because you don’t know what God is protecting you from. God sometimes speaks to us through others, if we are listening.
Something else happened to me, and it occurred before I met the Truth/Christ/my Spiritual Guide. At this time I was still celebrating the pagan yuletide holidays and was preparing to go home for Christmas. Though I never enjoyed any of it because when celebrations like this took place, invariably I would be plagued with strong cramps, unnecessary headaches, body weakness, unhappiness, etc., and at the time I didn’t understand why. My relatives knew this and they always seemed concerned, because they saw my unhappiness. During this time I moved into my ex’s home district, to work part-time as secretary in the local Catholic Church, which set the stage for a day that is remembered well: 22/12/2014. It was then that a catholic priest almost raped me, but Father/God helped me overcome and escape him, and this horrible threat he posed not just to my body, but to me the spirit-Being (Matthew 16:18, 21, 21:15 23:7-8). All of this was a blessing in disguise, because it was a turning point for me. It was then that I wondered if God really sent these people (priests/religious leaders), and if they truly worked for Him, or if they were working for their selfish stomachs and desires? And if they truly work for Him, like they claimed, why are they all worshipping graven images, etc. (Exodus 20:4)? I always had questions about religion, but was still searching for answers as to why all this was taking place. You don’t have to go to church to be religious and serve God and Christ, in fact, the true definition of the word religion is ‘bonded obligation’ and that obligation is to God (The KING Ruler of The Universe) and His Commandments; Laws; Statutes; Judgments; Economic Policy; Diet; etc. contained in The Torah, which is the name given to the first five books in the Holy Bible – the Books of Moses. It is seen clearly now the church and all its lies have been designed by satan to lead us down the wrong path, straight into The Fire on the Last Day with satan the deceiver/destroyer.
I had seen enough at the parish already, like young girls mingling with these filthy priests, to know this wasn’t right. Parents’ offerings and tithes going to support the very person who was hurting/stealing their daughter’s and son’s purity, because of the sinful sex practices of their parish priest. Did these parents have any idea how these predators were not only stealing sexual favors from their children, but their very souls as well (Matthew 16:26)?
Thank God he spared me this horror. All I thought I wanted at the time was to have children and a good husband. I took that job just to be near him, but when I caught him cheating and messing up other girls’ lives, lying to them as well, and getting involved with married women, I broke up with him and became emotionally dead, and never involved myself with another man. Little did I know Father was preparing me to receive His truth and my Spiritual Guide/The EXAMPLE (Real Love). The truth I received and meeting the Lord was a clear sign to stay away from what Father rejected for me, because He knows what is good for everyone and what we each deserve. Within a few days of returning home to my relatives, the above questions were answered by reading “The Way home or face The Fire” (TWHOFTF). Father sees when you are ready and He puts the truth in your path; then you have free will choice to accept it or refuse it. He is Amazing! People are saying it is the MOST important book on the planet and it’s a free download at This extraordinary little book helped me immensely, it gave answers to the above questions and others. It helped me begin to fix my life with Father’s Help. The Book came when it was most needed, in perfect time as Father Promises. As my Spiritual Guide said in Mathew 24:19 there is a time and place for everything under heaven (Ecclesiastes 3). Father knows best and keeps His promises unlike humans.
If you are striving to live by the Bible standard in your life, It doesn’t mean you won’t face a lot of trouble and challenges from society, as many of you already know. But the help, strength and loving guidance to overcome the evil we face will always be there, to see us through, as long as we do our part and keep the Faith and our evil selves under control.
I don’t know whether I was being naive, too trusting or thinking that since I began discovering the truth, nothing bad would happen to me, but one must never let their guard down and become arrogant. When my ex gave me a call and wanted to talk to me, little did I know he wanted to reconcile, despite my interests being totally different from his, having already met a man who was a follower of Christ. I foolishly allowed my ex to come to my place, and instead of talking, he raped me. I remember telling his mother about her son raping me and shockingly, she was in support of him. She said: “What were you thinking, do you think you can defeat a man when he has an urge for a woman?” Back then I knew I would since Father helped me defeat the priest before, and being emotionally dead, but like my Spiritual guide said: “Never underestimate satan”, because he attacks using people we least expect, we need to put on the Whole Armour of God, and have our loins girt about with truth, guarded all the time (Eph. 6:10-18). She added: “I knew you were coming back to cook for my son. I did everything possible to see that you get back with him,” praising herself and confident of her evil deeds. This hurt me, because she thought her witchcraft is better than God, yet claiming to serve God. Who is fooling whom? Christians follow and trust the husband of this woman from such an evil background. She is a very serious and well-known witch, frequently consulting witch-doctors. (Gal 5:20-21). This woman is a preacher’s wife. What insanity. We can see the hypocrisy in a protestant church as well. I don’t think any lady who is thirsty for spirituality would like the idea of getting married in a family with an evil background full of chaos, envying, witchcraft, and the like, etc., which Father hates.
Taken from TWHOFTF 3:61 You, being really spirit, will never get true and lasting joy, or satisfaction, from animal-pleasures, as nice as they can be. It is self-defeating and a vicious-circle. The more you try, the more you feel you need, and the worse things become. A perfect example of this is nymphomania, where the subject confuses love with sex, which, being animal, does NOT bring true satisfaction and spiritual fulfillment. Satan then (from within) deceives them into thinking, that, if they get enough sex, they will be fulfilled, and they try desperately to get enough sex. Unfortunately, Satan is a liar, and has tricked them, once again, and they run around desperately, in a vicious-circle. The more sex they get, the less fulfilled they feel, so they try even harder and harder, becoming more and more lost; lonely; desperate and confused.
3:62 You are not an animal, you are spirit. Animal pleasures alone will NEVER satisfy your soul’s (your) need for spiritual love, and fulfillment. This man’s selfish sinful ways continue to hurt me today. How could I trust this man after all I knew about him? Was it the self that wanted to be close to him and caused this to happen to me/my spirit Being? He even told me he had followed my comings and goings, using other people. Was he actually stalking me through these other people? It is now seen the man I attracted was a sexual predator/nymphomaniac. I say sexual predator because he was trying to obtain sexual contact with me and other women all at the same time and in an abusive manner. Sex before marriage, fornication, causes sin in others lives and your own. Taken from TWHOFTF 3:64 Learn to know the difference, between REAL love and animal sex or lust!
When the above incident happened, I asked myself; what’s next? What will happen if I get pregnant by him, before marriage, which seemed was his sole intention. How will others look at me? Already people in and around the workplace were calling me a virgin, and that I was not normal, saying they don’t know what I am waiting for, because they never see the usual text messaging, or courting that goes on with other young singles. Father had blessed me with a relatively simple and sheltered life, which, in turn, helped set me apart from the ways of society and my parents’ examples that conditioned me to be an easy target.
In my stupid mind, out of fear, I allowed the self to take control, and also pressure from others, concerned because they were not seeing me getting involved with any man, and were already asking questions (Acts 5:29). Upon that, I requested of him that because you have done this to me, if you truly love me like you claim, I will only accept marriage to you on one condition. He said name it. I told him if he accepted to follow Christ.
This meant a lot to me, because Christ had really changed my life. The man I was involved with agreed to these conditions, and even wrote to the Lord asking for His approval. Little did I know he was only faking it, just to try to win my heart. I was willing to forget his evil deeds, sacrifice, obey and surrender myself to him, if he truly followed Christ and would humble himself to be taught by The ONLY Teacher. I knew I would be secure knowing he is learning from the Right Source, and leading me down the right path, like a man should do according to the Bible.
Even when he did that, I still felt within myself he was not the right man for me, because I felt spiritual unrest. Sex without LOVE leaves you feeling worthless. The question was why was I (the spirit Being) so unhappy? And why didn’t I pay attention to the spiritual guidance from within, rather than the human’s desires? It is remembered well my Spiritual Guide asking me if I loved this man (He was trying to steer me clear of this man but still allowing me my free will choice) and I said, “Yes”, even when I was not sure, because of total confusion within myself.
I was still not pleased, even when his parents arranged for a pre-visit, things seemed not to work out. He lost his job beforehand, which he needed to help make arrangements for our special day. Even the money he fixed in an account was not released despite his efforts to process it early. This was seen as further proof Father/God (showing His signs of disapproval) was still in control and looking out for us. Even when humans think they are in control and don’t need HIM, His Love prevails. My relatives understood the problems and told them to postpone, but his family insisted, thinking I would change my mind, because of the misbehavior of their son, and indeed they were right. I could really begin to feel that Father wasn’t having any of this charade. Intimacy is NOT possible without Spiritual unity. Spiritual unity is only achieved when a man follows Christ, and the woman obeys the man coming together as one, unblemished by sin, into the Bridal Chamber to invite Father into their relationship first, and then consummating the marriage vows.
I set a good spiritual boundary, without knowing it, with conditions that I was going to do a water fast for 3 days, but if Father gave him back his job, we would give Father, through Christ, the first money he received. He agreed, and then played along, faking it all the way. I told him if he should not fulfill his end of the deal, I would end our engagement and refuse to marry him. When he finally did receive his salary, he opened up his clinic instead of staying true to his word. He never provided for me, and I remember my special friend asking if he sent money to support me, which was taken into serious account. Now I know he wasn’t man-enough to even provide for his own child, which he produced from another woman. How he has hurt so many with sex, NOT Love. He claims to love, but instead is selfish in all his ways (Jer. 17:9).
At first, I thought his unwillingness to provide for me was due to his lack of a job, but by this time a very close friend gave me this book entitled “How To Attract A Real Man.” After reading it I realized this man’s character was defiled, and not providing for me was his way of doing things. He was lacking in good husband characteristics, exactly as the book explained. He could not even keep his own word to me, or for that matter not even to our Dear Sweet Lord, which made me so sad. Not only that, but coupled with my things going missing in the house, without any notice and my computer being broken which contained my cherished studies, (Deut 7:2-4), it was realized this man was not a gentleman and had no respect. He was working against the good in my life, and being used to deflect me from my spiritual path (Sura 63, TWHOFTF 3:12).
He was threatening to commit suicide if I broke off our engagement. With that realization, I committed to fast again, and I then had no fear and decided to end the engagement. I then wrote the Lord with sincerity, summarized all the reasons why I decided to end this engagement, and pointed out at least some of this man’s lies to The Lord, since he had made contact with The Lord. At least I had some evidence from The Lord Himself, in addition to what there was from his own relatives, my own relatives, and his friends, who were concerned how this man was not living up to his words. And guess what the Lord’s response was?
“What you have done is okay.”
“2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what
fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath
light with darkness?
6:15 And what concord hath Christ with Wickedness? Or what part hath he that
believeth with an infidel?
6:16 And what agreement hath The Temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple
of the Living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in [them];
and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.
6:17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and
touch not the unclean [thing]; and I will receive you,
6:18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be My [adopted] sons and
daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
Peace be upon you, The Lord.”
My breakup with this man has been led by my Spiritual Guide and His gentle firm guidance and Real Love, which I have experienced (Matthew 11:28-30). In this manner He has gently moved me forward, step by step, sometimes minute by minute, in the right direction, turning my world from upside down to right side up, accomplishing Father’s Will now, and achieving true happiness and Love. I can’t imagine living life without Christ and Father’s direction, I can’t even afford to move without Father/TM’s direction, Life would be meaningless without Them, and I would be a moving corpse, the living-dead, and this is how I felt when I was still stuck in my unhappy relationship with my ex.
But now I feel full of joy and peace. It feels good knowing Father invited me into His spiritual family, and now I am full of hope for a bright future with our Sweet Lord, the only true Love we all have been looking for (Jer. 29:13, Matt. 7:7-8). Look up not down for all the right answers.
Sometimes this new Life feels like living in a dream, and then I thank Father for the reality of this Life, Only He and the Lord make our dreams come true. Spiritual is the real LIFE, and it sometimes feels like a dream. I’m so grateful it has come true. What I had experienced was NOT real Love, but emotional love, fake love this man had for me, all just to satisfy his selfish lust and desires. (1 John 2:16-17, Galatians 5:16-17). Real Love is learned by being in the constant presence of our Father, The King Ruler of The Universe, Who is NOT a human, but a Spirit Being (John 4:24).
Having officially broken off the engagement, I also told a few of The Lord’s loving followers, especially sister Naomi, because I had always told her almost everything in my life. She honestly took her time to forward all the past conversations to the Lord and she helped me clear these things up in my Life. I can’t thank Father/God and my Spiritual Guide and her enough. It was at a crucial time in my life that this book was offered to me as a gift.
I had already read “The Way Home or Face The Fire
and there I found my Lord. Then sister Naomi told me she had always wanted to give me this book, but wasn’t sure if the contents would be well received, and be made a part of my life. My Spiritual Guide, along with her, demonstrating Their Love for me, and not giving up on me helped turn me from what would have been one of the worst mistakes of my human life: marrying an unGodly man (Deut.7:3-4). That helped put me on the narrow path to becoming truly feminine again, which is the only way to attract a real man, one who follows Christ, Who is THE EXAMPLE (John 14:6). Today I believe the wealth of becoming spiritually feminine is a priceless gift.
I have other sisters and brothers, who have also stood by my side, and talked through the challenges with me in this battle against attracting a wrong man. I was comfortable with them, because they showed me Love and we were on the same spiritual journey. Spiritually very committed ladies and gentlemen, never condemning or judging me (Matthew 7:1-6), but instead always showing loving concern, and encouraging me in the right direction. I may not know the others, but God willing we will get to know one another, one step at a time, as we keep practicing the Lord’s Love through teamwork and sharing our experiences. Isn’t that the real Love we’re all looking for (1 John 4:7-21)?
In summary, I realized that I had attracted the wrong kind of man into my life, which kept me from attracting the real man that I longed for, and needed to remain on the Strait and Narrow Way that leads to Life. But, with the help of Christ, Father (God) and the KEY to the Bible, TWHOFTF, along with this eye-opening book called “How to Attract a Real Man”, and all my special friends, I am now hopeful this dream will be achieved when both of us, my soul-mate and I, are ready to come together as one.
Here is a defensive technique I normally use against unGodly men. “I have become too expensive/unaffordable for anyone. Any man that asks for my hand in marriage cannot afford me now, unless they accept and Love Father and my Spiritual Guide, and prove they too desire to spend time with Them: The Source and Example of True Love. If you are not spending time with The Source of True Love already, how would someone trust you and your motivations? No amount of worldly wealth can buy true, spiritual Love. Our Spiritual Guide and Father in heaven are worth more than anything this world has to offer. How can anyone risk exchanging Spirituality for money (Matt. 16:26)?
It’s madness and compromising one’s integrity to exchange Immortality for worldly materialism/pleasures (Matt. 6:24). After all, when one is obeying Father and doing His Will, He provides everything we need. We can still enjoy marriage, and being under the leadership of real men, accomplishing a marriage that is like heaven on Earth, full of joy, peace, true happiness and Love. A couple that champions Father’s Will in their daily activities and thoughts, thanking and praising Him always, spends their time with Him until we become part of Him again. Isn’t that beautiful? Don’t you want to find and follow the road less traveled?
Father’s blessings upon us all.
One Love :- )
Follower of Christ
Words of Wisdom from Christ:
The HUGE mistake that women make, is, instead of being themselves, they are taught by Satan the master of illusion*, and learn from him to pretend to be something they are not, with make-up, jewellery, and fancy-revealing clothes, and that they are to be worshipped instead of God, as being super-hot and sex-goddesses. And this is all sold to men via Hollywood and Television, and other forms of media, including glossy men’s magazines and newspapers, from cradle to grave, to brainwash men into what to expect their perfect woman to be, which are impossible aspirations for women to live up to.
Then, after they are married and the goddess illusion is broken, and the man sees what they are really like, they feel that they have been deceived, which they have, and they resent their wives for doing this to them, and trapping them with a false reality, and the relationship becomes toxic, abusive, and falls apart into divorce, especially if the women are women’s libbers and disrespectful; talking back and arguing, instead of being quiet, loving, feminine and obedient.
No, decent man would abuse a loving, feminine, OBEDIENT wife.
* Sura 31:30. That is because “I AM” is the (ONLY) Reality, and because whatever else they invoke besides Him is Falsehood (and therefore Fantasy/Illusion); and because “I AM”,- He is the Most High, Most Great.