Who is the ‘Self’ and How it Can Wreak Havoc in your Life

As you read on, hopefully you will be able to see how the ‘self’ can delude, twist and use you with all its evil ways to manipulate your life, while pretending to be your best friend.

We were married for 25 years, while building memories together, loving each other the best way we knew how, it got to the point of my knowing something had to give. Life had to be more than this, getting up each morning to the same ol’ routine. I was not awakening in the morning looking forward to discussing what Father wants to teach both of us today (remember, the man is the leader). Instead, we both did our chores for the day, only coming together to have an outing; going down to the marina; or walk around seeing all the beautiful yachts; or going inside the local thrift shops together; or to just talk together, etc. We always ate breakfast, lunch and dinner together, when he wasn’t gone working on projects. Of course, we met in the middle and talked with each other during the day, but, in the end, went back to our chores. I knew there was something missing, but didn’t know exactly what it was then, but I do now.

Fast forward to today and learning about true Spiritual Love, learning one can only learn to Love correctly, if they are constantly in the presence of Father. I finally came to a place in my life where I had to ask myself: How can I say I am in Love with my husband, if he doesn’t possess and follow Christ’s example and teachings? For a long time I believed he did have Christ in his life, i.e., knowing his grandmother, and how she lived, and being told of their past, since his grandparents were the ones who brought him up. Eventually, when it got to the point of not being able to talk about Christ, without his hairs on his chest standing up, it was then realized Christ wasn’t in his life, as was falsely believed before. I was the main one who read the Yoda/devotion in the morning and evening. When he did read, it was quick and without meaning. At mealtimes, I said the prayer most of time, but when he did pray out loud (Matthew 6:6) it was also quick and without meaning. These things have to not only be read, but lived.

When I say love, I mean real love, not an emotional infatuation, fake love, like the world teaches. I have now learned human love is loving what the other person does for you, a fleeting counterfeit love. Spiritual Love is laying down your life for the other person, every day, helping them spiritually. With the help of my Spiritual Guide and His wonderful words of Wisdom, I decided to change the environment for a bit. So I packed up my car with what was thought would be necessary for a short while, under the pretense of going to visit relatives. I never did let him know that something was missing in our marriage. I now know the missing piece was that Christ/God was not at the helm, as He should have been, as the Bible teaches. If we had talked it out, the outcome could have been confrontational.https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-ZzQgd514UDQ/UYFIiKwZljI/AAAAAAAAA8M/s16D71nbV0w/s1600/19CA2A3GEJCAZUF107CAVPUUAKCARPMIQ4CA2E4T83CAZREZTKCAWCOZNTCAQ94T5MCAQKTL3WCADJBIYICA78E942CAULI1MUCAE8OROFCAX11M67CADJALOYCA1XWC1OCAO88HY1CAG2Y1M8CAJF4N1ECAUZH86P.gif I don’t know, but at least he would have known there wasn’t true happiness: something was wrong. I so regret not speaking with him, before I left. I know now that Christ/God was not the one leading my husband. Because of his amazing arrogance, thinking he didn’t need anybody reigning over him, because he’s a know-it-all, how could it be the true love I was looking for in our marriage, if Christ wasn’t in his life?

I truly didn’t think it would take that long. With my being gone for such a long time, even though he continued to coax me to come back, I just hoped he would come to his senses, realize something was wrong, and actually ask me why I wasn’t coming back to him. Instead, he was oblivious to what was happening. He presumed he did no wrong, arrogance beyond belief, blaming me for everything. There was also my own arrogance, of knowing he would miss me and thinking he would ask me what happened. I wasn’t even aware I was arrogant, but Father was showing me my true colors, that I needed to get rid of my arrogance and trying to make things happen my way, and not accepting what Father’s Will was for me. I needed to become more responsible for myself, and not want the instant gratification I had always been given upon asking. I know now that instant, self-gratification was actually hurting my Spirit Being, by him giving me more that I asked for. I loved this instant, self gratification he always gave. Why would I want to give that up?

I first went to my son’s house and visited with him and his wife. Unknown at the time, they were having underlying issues too, for the same reason as me and my husband, and most other couples as well. While staying at their home, keeping it clean, taking care of animals and cooking, a binder was put together of various studies that interested me, such as Codes found in the Bible, information on the Crucifixion, God’s Diet, Prophetic Route, who is JAH (see Psalm 68:4), etc. In front of the binder was inserted the words to the song; Change My Heart Oh God. The first few lines go like this – Change my heart Oh God, Make it ever true, Change my heart oh God, May I be like You. You are the Potter, I am the clay, Mold me and make me, This is what I pray. On the back of the binder was inserted the Scriptures from The Book of Jeremiah 18:1-6. My ‘self’ was constantly telling me to go back home, my spirit-being asked: to what though, the same thing? The ‘self’ seems to be constantly leading you astray, which is why you have to take up your cross of ‘self’-sacrifice daily (Luke 9:23). It is so bad, you must constantly be on the lookout for how your actions will affect not only you, but others around you, far and near.

At the time, inserting the song on the front and Scriptures on the back, was my way of asking Father to change the heart of my husband, from a heart of stone to a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 11:19), to find Christ and start being the leader that I always wanted, but, little did I know, I was actually asking Father to change my own heart, which He definitely did.

Since the stay with my son and his wife wasn’t working, I left to go and stay with my sister and her husband for a short while. Before arriving at my sister’s house, I stopped at a store to buy a page of hearts to be placed on the page, Change my heart O God. After about a week, it was apparent they both definitely had different beliefs, and tried to pull me into directions (their ‘self’ actually) I knew was wrong, i.e.: buying another car and going into debt, saving for this holiday and that. The ‘self’ was constantly pulling at me to go down the path of destruction, whether it be to go into debt, or go back home, to what I had left. Neither of these visits worked well, my son’s or sister’s. By listening to my Spiritual Guide and His words of Wisdom, God’s Magical Mystery Tour led me to a friend’s house, where I could be helpful with her situation. Little did I know this is where Father was planting me, with someone who was like-minded, and who had the same morals and beliefs as I did. I felt we had known each other forever, which actually we did through reincarnation. I made the trip down to her house, after accepting this was Father’s Will for me, and eventually it became my home as well.

I arrived with such anger, frustration, depression, self-pity and fear inside, which is the ‘self’ coming out in its full glory and force, all of the self’s ominous ways. The self was giving me fits with its bad and many conglomerations of emotions. One day, it was so bad with all these emotions surrounding me (like a hurricane really), it became quite uncomfortable for both my special friend and myself. So uncomfortable, it instigated a “garage talk” out of Loving concern for my well Being. She told me how the “self” was overtaking me/my spirit Being, with all the emotions above, and it/self needed to be stopped, NOW. Her concern was my ‘self’ was going to completely take over and was going to drag me back to what I left.

After my arrival, it was soon discovered there was ongoing evil taking place in the form of a law enforcement case. When this was discovered, the self did not, in any way, want to help or take part in helping fight this evil. I’ve been there, (working in the past for law enforcement), done that, and didn’t want to do that again: how arrogant on my part. By not taking part in this, how I hurt so many people, and how sorry I am for that, at that time though, this was the path I chose. Today, I can say truthfully that every chance I get, I do take part in fighting this evil, whether it be sending out emails, going to the courthouse, or just having a shoulder when needed.

The garage talk was when the truth really came out about who the “self” was, and how all these dark emotions were absolutely engulfing my human and spirit-being, trying its best to convince me to go back to my husband. It kept telling me I didn’t need to do all these chores around here; that I could go back to what I was used to – instant gratification and doing what I wanted, when I wanted.

It took a long time for my spirit to accept the Truth about the self, how deceptive it is, and how it pretends to be your friend, by telling you what it wants you to hear, but not the Truth. With all the self’s above emotions inside whirling around like a hurricane, and never seeming to stop, I must admit that it was a definite roller-coaster-ride, that wasn’t pleasant at all. I was very slothful; didn’t want to work; just do the necessary things around the house. This is what I was used to and didn’t want to change. It took about 2 years to even begin to come out of this whirlwind. All in all, it took a total of almost 3 years, before I started to really see the Truth. This was a great feeling and certainly started to bring harmony into my life and surroundings. In my opinion, the only way to step outside of this whirlwind is with determination and Father’s/TM’s help, which will win your freedom back. It is so true, the Truth will set you free (John: 8:23).

“It took a true friend to put up with me and endure those horrid 3 years, and what I must have put her through every day. That’s true friendship that is only possible with Father’s help. I hope you can all find that kind of friend.”

The satan within (the ‘self’ again) still tries to pull me away, and go back to what I left, but with the determination previously mentioned, it won’t happen. I was angry at God for not making things the way I wanted and thought they should be: thinking I knew best what was good for me. I actually didn’t even know I was angry at God, until I started writing about my feelings. God is certainly not the one to be angry at, when He is so compassionate and loving, and wants to help in the best way possible not only for us, but for everyone. I was actually mad at my husband for not changing, which led into self-pity and certainly fear of the unknown – what was going to happen next? Alone again? I (the self/satan really telling me all this), certainly did not want to participate in any of the chores that needed to be done at the ranch. There came a time when I knew the car title needed to be changed to this state, change my address and make it permanent, talk about hard. Please see https://hannahmichaels.wordpress.com/?s=fear&submit=Search – this is a wonderful video on Irrational Fear made by TM. It was hard to deal with all these emotions, but, with Father and TM’s help, and all my special friends, I began to “see”, finally after 2 ½ years, maybe 3 or so living here, just a little bit of the real culprit, the “self”. I now see we were unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?

6:15 And what concord hath Christ with Wickedness? Or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

6:16 And what agreement hath The Temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the Living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in [them]; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.

6:17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean [thing]; and I will receive you,

6:18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be My [adopted] sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.)

Eventually, this change that was needed started to happen. I began to “see” that my husband had his own free-will choice, whether to follow Christ or not. This was very hard to accept and swallow, to say the least. I certainly played my part, by not pointing him back in the right direction, back towards God. Not doing as much cooking as I should have, just making sure we had three square meals a day. Trying new recipes, filling the house with the aroma of homemade bread or whatever, very seldom happened. I kept the house clean, but probably not as clean as it should have been. I wish we had studied The Law together or even read http://thewayhomeorfacethefire.net and lived both of them together, but we stayed in our separate rooms, except when time came to eat together, or have outings, as mentioned above. We certainly talked with each other when we wanted a break, but it just wasn’t what it should have been. We both loved to sail, but he did most of the sailing. So it’s not like we were never together, but the one thing, in my opinion, which is so important, we didn’t study The Word together, or talk about Christ/God. Over time, his arrogance and listening to the bad voice (the ‘self’/satan), thinking he knew it all, (actually the self/satan again deceiving him) overtook him. We now live both estranged in separate homes, in different states. He was asked to give me a Bill of Divorcement but, to this day, that hasn’t happened. I constantly continue to pray for him, for him to wake-up and ‘see’ who his ‘self’ really is, and how it pretends to be his best friend, and how it absolutely raises havoc. Have you heard the saying; You are your own worst enemy? The human you are inhabiting is your spirit-being’s and its own worst enemy (the satan within and around you). No photo description available.

The chores are now looked upon as teachings and lessons that needed to be learned, i.e. cooking, cleaning, chores which are now done on a daily basis – cleaning, taking care of animals/feeding them, mowing the yard as needed, weeding in the garden – my goodness, the list goes on. Oh, I still make mistakes, we all do, but strive to be perfect as our Father Who is in Heaven, is perfect.

I continue to pray my husband digs himself out of this pit, dark hole, finds Christ and starts to follow Him. Up to this point, as far as I know, that hasn’t happened. Maybe it will someday, but I have had false hope for so long, it’s time to move on.

I also have learned everything happens for a reason. During the last few years of my husband and I being together, he shared the little book with me called, “The Way Home or face The Fire”. The link is https:/thewayhomeorfacethefire.net which, upon reading from beginning to end, has literally changed my life, for the good, but not his, because he only read it and spoke about it, but didn’t digest and live it (Revelation 10:9 And I went unto the angel, and said unto him, Give me the little book. And he said unto me, Take [it], and eat it up; and it shall make thy belly bitter, but it shall be in thy mouth as sweet as honey.

This book is free to the whole world, and a must read for everyone; the title is self-explanatory. This book was written in 40 days, does that tell you anything about who the author is?

Ladies, if you feel God wants to take you on His Magical Mystery Tour, please listen to Him and follow His Will, not your own ‘self’-will (Matthew 6:10). I really encourage you to set Spiritual Goals/Healthy Boundaries and stick to them, no matter the cost, get determined and don’t waiver. March on soldier.

Do Real Men Desire a Beautiful Woman?

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Is it true a Real Man desires a beautiful woman? What is a beautiful woman by modern standards, (head of the relationship, bossy, independent, displays lasciviousness) and is that really what men want? Truth is a real man desires a woman who can make his world beautiful, and that ONLY happens when she becomes a spiritually feminine lady, who allows her husband/real man to be the leader of their relationship. Today people ask me, “How do you describe a Real Man?” Below you will find a description of my real man. The next question they ask is, “How does a man become a real man?” Only God knows the answers to that question, because it is only through a divine relationship with Him that He creates a Real Man.

When I first met my knight in shining armor I could tell he was not “one of the good old boys.” he carried the sword of Truth with him at all times, which he used most days. I quickly found out he had principles, displayed honor and respect for others, for the most part, and their possessions, which he still possesses today. What are the characteristics of a real man? A God centered definition is this: when you define a real man in a SPIRITUAL way, his physical body becomes far less important. In other words you are able to see the spiritual characteristics, spirit- Being, inside the man, rather than just the human body which is suppose to be controlled by his spirit-Being. A real man is one who controls his “self”, selfish desires, with all of its selfish emotions, by his spirit, from the inside out. A real man is a protector and provider for his wife and family. A real man’s responsibility is to be the spiritual leader and disciplinarian of his family. He practices good morals at all times, setting a good, Christ-like example for his wife and children to follow. He follows the Commandments, meaning he does not lie, cheat or steal, nor does he commit adultery or murder. He is not selfish, but instead puts God first, and the NEEDS of everyone else before himself. He is quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to wrath, never using his fists except in self defense. He does not allow problems or others to frustrate him into being a bully, but calmly, humbly and lovingly, faces each challenge by correctly applying the Commandments for everyone’s mutual benefit. imageReal men fight with their will and determination and they pick women who are feminine and support them in their fight against evil. They are creative and get to know Father telepathically and learn to listen and obey what He tells them to do. They take only what they need and are not interested in material wealth, but in spiritual growth (Matt. 6:24). Real men never lie, they mean what they say and say what they mean never going back on their word even when it becomes difficult to keep, they still follow through. My knight does not claim to be physically strong or intelligent, he just goes out 6 days a week wearing his shield and taking his sword to fight the dragons in high places, on this hellish planet called Earth. He is not puffed up with big muscles, nor arrogantly focusing on what he looks like physically. My knight today is the protector and sole provider for me, and his family, and he takes good care of all our needs and the animals he has been entrusted with. He will defend us in self-defense when necessary. He is not a bully, using his fists, but deals with problems in a calm and logical manner. His continual examples of love and compassion for others attracted me to him. Because of these characteristics I felt I could trust him with my life. In fact one day early on in our marriage we were working for another carpenter friend of his and the man turned to me in the conversation of marriage and said, “You have trusted him with your life.” I agreed and today I am so glad I listened to that lovely sweet soft voice inside me wooing me to come this way, for the way of true love and harmony that I was seeking, I have found through this relationship.

My knight guides me gently back to my Creator Who has the power to change me, as well as all of us here, because He created each one of us and knows just what we ALL need, and when we need it. He is always drawing me closer to him by kindly encouraging me to do what is right for me, and everyone else involved. This kind of Love makes it easier for me to do what he asks, rather than a man who is harsh and demanding, who has to be right all the time, but doesn’t practice what he preaches. My knight kindly suggested I let him supply all my needs, therefore encouraging me to stop practicing/selling vanity as my business. Vanity, I believe, is partly responsible for the mess the world is in today. He often reminds me, that, “the whole world is upside down, worshipping satan through the woman.” This helped turn my world right side up, finding the way to my rightful position worshipping God through the man. Now I practice being his help-meet, just as my Creator intended. I find that in following this path my Creator guided me to fall in love with my real man, his sword, shield and The Truth that he follows.

Don’t get me wrong, he’s also physically nice to look at and talented, but the whole package is what I desire. Early on he gained my respect, due to the fact he did not play into the hands of his women clients who flirted with him. He was always kind, and sometimes found it necessary to direct the conversation elsewhere, in those situations which helped give me faith in his relationship capabilities. This kind of Love helped to break through the walls of hurt and distrust I had developed from previous dysfunctional relationships. Like these, he has many skills most men only dream of acquiring, which makes him very attractive to most women these days, because they selfishly want a man for what he can give them, not for the man’s Godly values. He could have had most any woman, but because of his beliefs and faith in God he chose a woman who could make his world spiritually beautiful, not one who is just beautiful to look at. It is a dream come true to have this courageous sword swinging man as my husband. He has had many a woman tempt him before, but he is always true to our commitment and has never committed adultery since we signed our Holy Marriage Contract with God. He also shared that the seven years prior to our relationship he remained celibate which further strengthened my trust in him, and helped me to start overcoming my destructive jealousy. He helps me achieve things like this site to connect with others. Most of the time it feels like I am in a fairy-tale and the dream has come true to life.

Today it is apparent that my knight knew what he wanted and picked me for my beliefs, which he hoped would make his world more beautiful. I’ve always wanted a man to love me for who I really was and not for my looks, but I did not know how to attract that kind of man. Thank goodness all that has changed today, and I am loved by my knight in shining armor, because of his beliefs in building a better world. It has been said that opposites attract, he being masculine in nature likes for me to be his feminine polar opposite. For example, long soft flowing hair as my covering, being sensitive and caring, always nurturing, and a good care-giver of his physical and most importantly his spiritual needs.

From the first time he came to my home he guided our romance with “strong steel boundaries – no sex before marriage.” We believe that sex is spiritually uniting within the bonds of the marriage contract, becoming one flesh, and if sex happens before God is invited in, through the taking of vows, the man ends up following satan through the woman making their whole world operate upside down. Because he used his sword and shield, he extinguished the red dragon’s fiery darts of lust and sin that would have destroyed our loving relationship, causing our relationship to be based on lust. I used to think that more sex was the way to a man’s heart, however I have learned the way to a real man’s heart is through giving him Real Love. Clearly he does not desire lust/sex and it is a big turn OFF to him. Actually he desires the opposite, which is Real Love. I have found this kind of Love is much more fulfilling than sex. He desires to make an “Out of This World” experience when our two bodies and souls join unselfishly, always putting the others needs first, wanting only to please and asking nothing in return. Our act of making love becomes the nearest thing to “Heaven on Earth” I have ever experienced. It has been said love-making could be this way and now I can honestly tell you it can be.

We grow a garden, which helps us grow together. We love the fresh vegetables, because they just taste better and we know they are much healthier for us. The time we spend together in the garden has proved to be a rewarding experience. We see nature transpiring, and becoming full of life. The garden reminds us of our relationship, as it grows it shows sign of magical wonders producing sweet sensations to enjoy and nourish us as well as others. While sharing our day over a hot home-cooked meal, I jump at the chance to tell him everything that happened to me that day, listening for guidance in his humble words of direction. Keeping our home and clothes clean and mended, making sure there is a warm inviting atmosphere when he returns home, are ways I show my gratitude. He shows appreciation for the labor of love by verbally thanking me for cooking and cleaning and helping him with the chores of our animals around the ranch. After all he has been fighting the fire-breathing dragon all day, and he just wants to come home where he is loved, appreciated, and respected. I try to show him I appreciate him by verbally thanking him for all his hard work each day, and putting healthy food on our table.

By no means is he perfect, he still has his ego/self to overcome daily, as we all do. Neither are we claiming to know anything about relationships, we still have occasional discord when either of us becomes overcome with one’s selfishness. Yet the episodes are less frequent as love abounds. It is our hope that each couple will find their harmony with the guidance of their Creator, as we have. If we have shared anything here of any use or value, we give credit to our Father in Heaven, for He is the Only One Good and is Love; which makes the world go round.

In closing:

A real man is one who follows morality and aspires to these characteristics, puts other people’s needs before his own. He is his family’s protector/provider, never lies, does not commit fornication or adultery, respects others and their property, and follows Truth, always striving to point others to that path. When he fails he gets back up and rights his shield and takes the sword of Truth in hand once again to battle the red dragon’s tail of lies, using God’s Royal Laws of Liberty, Commandments and his determination. My role is cheering him on saying, “Honey, Go, Fight, Win this race called Life”, encouraging him on his path towards learning how to be good. Perhaps you’ve heard it said, “Behind every good man there is a relatively good woman”, my place is to take good care of him, and encourage him to fight evil in the world. By doing so I am learning how to become a perfect lady, wife and mom, which is Women’s True Liberation, having found my path towards home, Falling in Love with a Real Man. By following this path my Creator has designed for me, I can earn the right to become a man the correct way, not the way the world teaches by becoming a man while still in a woman’s body (bread winner, competitive, bossy, independent, etc.), before having earned it. My hope is you will come and join me here, and discover your divine purpose, as God intended it to be, thereby making your man’s world a beautiful place to be.

God bless

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Greetings everyone,

What follows is a personal life experience, shared in the spirit of friendship and in the hope of helping others avoid similar pitfalls to achieve true joy.

This story begins in a typical, middle class family with three children. My mom was “religious” and took us from our dad, so she could be closer to her dad, and in doing so sent our whole family down an unhappy path. My dad, instead of taking responsibility and exercising his God-given authority over her demands to break-up our family, allowed her to lead the marriage. The consequences of my dad’s cowardice and my mom’s disobedience and selfish choices for our family eventually led to my mom being formally diagnosed as mentally ill (schizophrenic and manic depressed).

She played the blame game. It was always someone else’s fault, never hers. Placing the blame on us led her to abusing us both physically and mentally. That in turn led to my mom to believe we were devil-possessed, while ignoring her own penchant for listening to the bad voices inside her own head.

My dad coped with this insane nightmare by drinking alcohol and working all the time. We spent very little time with my dad because mother was jealous of us having a good relationship with him. Today I believe everything happens for a reason, and can be for the greater good if it is viewed from a spiritual perspective. The same certainly applies to the upbringing personally experienced.

It was an unhappy situation always feeling like the odd one out, with my mom showing favoritism toward my older sister and dad doing the same with with my younger sister. In a desperate attempt to escape my home life, lust took over and I became pregnant and married to a selfish man who would not provide for nor protect me or his son. Unbeknownst to me, I drove him into the arms of other women with my possessive jealousy, mistaken to be love. This behavior had attracted a man who was a thief, drug user and drug dealing, addicted to sex, and verbally and physically abusive to me and his son. All of this hurt my son and I deeply and the last thing needed was another relationship to deal with but being on the rebound it was easy to give in to the next one. Again desperate for help, I was baptized into the church and became religious, seeking God and the answers to why the marriage was failing. With those religious teachings in hand I decided my husband was the problem, so I divorced him.

Still looking for love, in all the wrong places with all the wrong character defects, it wasn’t long before getting married again. I remained in that unhappy marriage for 28 years. Ever heard the old saying misery loves company, well it’s true. like my dad I coped with unhappiness by drinking and becoming a career-minded workaholic in the beauty industry, while learning how to “wear the pants in this relationship”. Over the next 23 years hundreds of women shared similar stories of failed marriages that for reasons sounded all too familiar. Clearly this type of self-serving behavior was destroying the family unit. These women divorced their husbands and would almost always take the children, only to remarry again and end up once again in an unhappy situation. This common, recurring theme made it easy to feel victimized, blaming others for my personal choices just like my mom had done.

Society had taught me to be a woman’s lib fan (a man hater who acts like a man). And the emphasis on being an independent woman turned out to be a curse rather than a blessing, because it could never attract a God-fearing man who naturally commanded the authority, leadership and respect that engenders obedience. It’s easy to be deceived into thinking you’ve got it all together and can take care of yourself when you’re running a successful business, going to church all the time and attending Al-anon. Truth was it all added up to an even more unhappy relationship because it was all a lie that was destined to eventually fail. And that’s exactly what happened, as hope dwindled, reality became visible after a major accident occurred and that marriage also ended in divorce. Today I can say that accident was a big blessing in disguise setting my life on a completely differnt path that is fulfilling, joyfully rewarding, seeing lasting changes all for the better one day at a time..

Less than a year later the cycle repeated itself with another engagement to another man addicted to sex and porn. Counseling at church provided little to no results. Fortunately God had mercy on me and helped me rise above the insanity for a moment and call off the engagement.

So, after two painful divorces and a failed engagement, I came to the realization I could not attract a man who would love me the way love should be without doing something different. Something had to change and that was me. It was painfully obvious my approach and priorities needed to change. The only way to attract a husband who was striving to be Christ-like was to learn to be submissive rather than “independent”.

By this time I was emotionally spent and not interested in another relationship. Realizing that I WAS THE PROBLEM changed everything. If you are hoping to attract a truly masculine man who is following Christ’s example, you’ll need to become a truly feminine woman. The alternative was to continue emasculating men which wasn’t working for me because that approach can never attract a real man which was my hearts desire. And worse than that, it was hampering my spiritual growth to the point I felt like I was dying inside. Determined to find a solution, I humbly turned to my Creator earnestly in prayer and laid the whole problem before Him, so He could teach and guide me.

Shortly after this I went to work part time for a women named Debra, who kept insisting I meet her contractor named Mark. She would show me pictures of him and she told me things about him like he would not work on Saturday and if he did anything on that day he did not charge for it. This rang a bell with me and sparked just enough interest to allow her to give him my phone number. He did not call right away as she said he always did and she became worried. I would ask her “please don’t worry, if he doesn’t call back it is not meant to be”.

God doesn’t waste any time when He knows you are ready and I was ready for good change. The first call came and I kindly informed Mark I did not wish to waste his time nor mine on a relationship that would not work so first things first. I kindly ask him about his relationship with Christ. Complete silence fell on the other end of the phone. I thought to myself, if I have lost him I didn’t need him, and then he gave a logical clear answer, with out going into details: Christ was the most important relationship in his life. That sounded good but now I was looking for proof of that which did not take long as he lead the relationship with healthy boundaries and we were soon married in the Bridal Chamber.

After being married to this real man I found genuine lessons, that really changed things for the better like this extraordinary little book entitled “How To Attract A Real Man” This book has given me new ways to view relationships and new things to put into practice which have helped our marriage all the more. It is highly recommended that all ladies read this treasured book full of God’s Wisdom. The author spiritual Guide taught her everything she shared in it.

In conclusion: Through the techniques used throughout this amazing little book you can live a liberated life, just as our Creator has intended for us to live. This is the ONLY way I have found that actually works. And it can help you too, if you’re ready to make a change for the better.